Want a man to pay the bill on a date? Then you should have sex whenever he wants, says controversial dating expert
When one audience member asked how to deal with her stingy boyfriend, she was NOT expecting this reply
YOU’RE on a romantic dinner date with the man of your dreams and, ever the gentleman, he leans over to pay the bill.
But how should you react?
Sit back and smile sweetly, or offer to pay your half?
It’s a much-debated subject, and now one male dating expert has given some VERY controversial advice on the subject.
tours America to teach women how to ‘get the guy’ and ‘attract any man’, offering honest opinions on a live event platform.
At one such show earlier this month Matthew - who is a New York Times best-selling author, love expert for The Today Show and columnist for Cosmopolitan magazine - was asked how a girl should respond when she’s asked, after four or five months of dating, to contribute to the dinner bill.
And his answer shocked his audience.
Matthew said: “He’s supposed to pay? But you’re supposed to have sex with him whenever he says.
“Where did this double standard come from? I’m sorry, that’s the reality.
“You can moan at it all you want, but the moment you say to a guy ‘you have to f***ing pay for my time’ you’re saying this relationship isn’t equal.”
He went on: “If I went on a date with someone who never offered to pay, I wouldn’t be dating them.
“Because I’d say ‘this is the most polite they’re going to be, and they’re not even paying now’.
“I will always treat my partner how I would treat my best friend. I wouldn’t apply a different standard. I’d say ‘let’s be team mates here in whatever way we can’.
“And maybe proportionately what you can do is less than what he can do. That’s a different thing.”
Using the example of a £1,050 holiday, Matthew said it was fine to expect to pay proportionately – if the man earns more than the woman – but not to refuse to offer anything towards it.
He added: “Let me tell you what means something to a guy, trying. That means something to a guy.
“When he feels that you’re not even trying to contribute, that’s when he feels used.
“He’s feel that he’s being taken advantage of. It has to do with the lack of gesture.”