I have an amazing girlfriend but I can’t get my mind off my sister’s sexy pal
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Dear Deidre
MY sister’s best friend called me upstairs at our house to help her find her phone but we ended up having fantastic sex. Now I can’t stop thinking about her – despite having a brilliant girlfriend.
We have been together for three years and she is pretty, sexy and loving. We both live at home with our parents because we are saving for our wedding and a place of our own. I am 26, she is 25.
I have known my sister’s best friend for years, as they were at school together. They are both 20.
I had always thought of her as a kind of sister but just lately there has been chemistry between us whenever we have been near each other.
We started to chat on social media and the talk soon turned pretty flirty.
I don’t know how it happened but we just grabbed each other and started kissing
She and my sister were going to another mate’s 21st last weekend. My sister went early to help get things ready for the party.
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Dear Deidre
I WANT all my children at my baby’s christening but my husband has banned my 18-year-old daughter.
She and my son, 15, are by my ex. I left him after he beat me up in front of my daughter when she was 11. Because of this, she is rebellious and doesn’t trust men.
Dear Deidre
MY partner is having an operation and I’m worried sick it will all go wrong. I am putting on a brave face, especially in front of our children, but it is driving me crazy.
We have been together for 15 years. I am 40, she is 38. We have two boys of 11 and 13.
Dear Deidre
MY boyfriend is nagging at me to have anal sex. He is a big guy, handsome and has a great character. I think he may be the one for me if we can settle this.
We have been together for six weeks. I am 23, he is 27. We already have great sex but he really wants this.
I have never done it but friends tell me it is painful. He tried to do it during sex recently without asking me. I was shocked and pushed him away. I tried using a vibrator that way and it was impossible. How can I tell him it is never going to happen?
DEIDRE SAYS Nobody should be pressured into doing anything sexual they don’t want to. He was very wrong to try this without your consent.
Tell him he should respect your feelings. If he repeats it, end the relationship because it will only lead to worse. My e-leaflet on Standing Up For Yourself can help you.
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