I had sex with my teacher and now she’s pregnant — but I’m not ready to be a teenage dad

Dear Deidre

I HAD such brilliant sex with my chemistry teacher I ended up moving in with her when I got into uni, thanks to her coaching.

But she’s now pregnant and I’m not ready to be a dad.

I’m 19 and in my first year at uni.

She is ten years older than me but she isn’t bad looking at all and I always knew that she fancied me rotten.

It all kicked off between us last May when my A-levels were approaching.

I’m good at physics and biology but I really struggled with chemistry though I knew that I needed to get a good grade.

I don’t normally go for older women but I thought it was worth making the effort with her for the sake of my future career.

I waited to talk to her after the lesson and I had my sob story ready.

I said I was doing my best with the subject but I knew I was going to fail my exam.

It worked like a charm.

I always knew that she fancied me rotten

She asked me back to her place that night and she coached me for two solid hours.

We stopped for a drink and I gave her a kiss.

Soon we were snuggled up close in her bed and she showed me how to give her (and myself) a good time.

We soon got into a regular thing of me going to her flat two or three times a week.

We’d work first and then we’d have sex.

My chemistry mark was the best in the year and the sex got quite special as well.

I found myself falling for her.

I moved in with her after my A-levels and I’m now at veterinary college, like I’d always dreamed.

Life was all going to plan but now she’s told me the news that she’s pregnant.

That’s not what I want. I’m too young for all of this!

DEIDRE SAYS: She was breaking the law having sex with you while she was your teacher.

However, you’re not too young to know how a baby gets made or to take your share of responsibility for using protection.

She is at the age most women think of starting a family but how much do you care about her? Enough to be a good partner and dad?

Whether or not she goes ahead with the pregnancy is solely her choice but it’s time to be totally honest with her so she knows where she stands.

Once you’re a dad you just can’t walk away from your child.

Legally you have to help provide for them and morally you should make them feel loved and wanted.

Show her my e-leaflet Unplanned Pregnancy? which details all options. Whatever the outcome, you’re still young and fit with a future ahead.

Babies do change lives but it isn’t all bad.

Sacked because I needed IVF help

Dear Deidre

I WAS sacked from my job after taking time off for IVF treatment. I feel sure that the stress of the sacking was one of the reasons the IVF failed.

I’m 37 and my husband is 40. We have been trying for a baby for five years.