Sex life sagged? Here’s how you can have the best lovemaking session TONIGHT
As part of our Women On Top Week, sexpert Alix Fox has provided an hour-to-hour guide will heat up the bedroom
FEEL your sex life has sagged lately? You’re not alone – Brits are having less nookie than ever.
In 1990, couples made love five times a month, but that has now drooped – sorry, dropped – to three, say researchers.
But if your sex life has flopped, don’t fret. Today, as part of our Women On Top Week, sexpert Alix Fox has produced a day-long timetable which is sure to get you back on track in the sack TONIGHT.
07:00 This is around the peak time for men to be in the mood for making love — but unfortunately women don’t feel so fruity first thing.
Compromise by keeping fresh breath strips by the bed so you can at least indulge your lover in a delicious wake-up kiss.
Listerine makes a mouthwash flavoured with cinnamon, which is reputed to enhance libido.
07:15 Get in the mood by lathering up with a pheromone scrub in your morning shower.
These hormones are released by the body to attract the opposite sex and trigger sexual excitement — and they are added to Casanova Pheromone Shower Gel and Shampoo from .
07:30 Dressing in your kinkiest lingerie, or best boxers, will make you feel naughty all day long.
There is something X-rated about knowing you’re wearing raunchy lace or hip-hugging Lycra beneath your smart work clothes.
If you feel daring, go commando — and whisper your cheeky secret to your partner before you leave home. Maybe even give them a saucy flash as you head out — the image will stick teasingly in their mind all day.
07:45 Even your gems can leave your lover looking forward to nookie.
Women can wear a stylish Bijoux Indiscrets chain necklace which looks innocent yet doubles as a mini whip for light spanking or trailing sensually over your lover’s skin.
An even more risqué alternative is the Vesper Crave necklace which hides a miniature vibrator, to make your partner daydream about what you’re getting up to at work.
09:00 When you arrive at your workplace, set your partner’s imagination on fire by sending them a message spelling out exactly what you plan to do to them later.
You can text or email them a short porn animation from Tumblr. Men in particular respond strongly to pictures rather than words.
If you are feeling shy about expressing your true desires, try beginning a text message with: “I had a dream last night . . .” before going into detail about your fantasies.
If your lover responds cautiously, you have a get-out clause.
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Alternatively, try Nookii Swipe, a free mobile phone game encouraging partners to discover each other’s sexual interests in an embarrassment-free way.
Swipe through cards suggesting various sex acts, locations and ideas and click on those you would like to experiment with. Your partner will only be shown those that you’ve expressed an interest in too.
You could also download new app Desire, which challenges you both to complete racy dares.
13:00 To put yourself in the peak of fitness for a night of vigorous activity, nutritionist Rick Hay advises a powerful lunch.
Stir up a salad full of avocados, blueberries, almonds, pine nuts, pumpkin seeds and basil leaves, then add a drizzle of olive oil.
This is a great pre-nookie meal as all the foods contain vitamins, minerals and amino acids which are known to ramp up our sex drives.
16:00 There are better ways to beat the afternoon slump than drinking a cup of coffee.
Wait until your colleagues have left the office for a coffee break then give yourself a whole new type of buzz with a discreet personal massager that is designed to be placed on a woman’s office chair so she can sit on it and turn herself on.
This gadget, the Rocks Off Ruby Glow was invented by erotic author Tabitha Rayne, who wanted a way to give herself an orgasm while she typed.
18:00 Plug in your headphones and listen to a seductive, erotic audio book on your way home. Audible.co.uk has a great selection and as a bonus, you can get your first one free.
19:00 If you get through the door first, spend five minutes shaking your limbs energetically.
After a day spent focusing your mind on work, this helps you become more aware of your body.
20:00 By this point you should be ready to devour each other, but I’d recommend pausing before you dive in.
Take ten minutes just to lie down and gaze deeply into your partner’s eyes.
It’s a non-verbal way to create a feeling of intimacy.
This practice prompts the body to produce the chemical phenylethylamine, which makes you feel in love.
21:00 Boys, if you fancy a marathon session but are not sure you are physically able to control yourself that long, try something to make things last that bit longer.
The Durex Pleasure Ring is a squidgy, stretchy, comfy-to-wear, clear silicone band that fits over the base of the penis — there’s nothing scary or complicated.
This will stop things ending too soon without the use of chemicals or pills, giving the ego a boost and giving you both more time to make love, with the added bonus of making sex more intense for blokes.
21:15 Fancy a fresh way of having sex? Try one of these two positions to achieve the big O and reap the rewards of all your planning.
THE FOGGY DOGGY: Give this position a whirl by positioning a fan so it is pointing towards your faces, then place a scented reed diffuser, above, in front of it so you’re bathed in a cool, fragrant breeze as you make love doggy-style.
The essential oil ylang ylang is known to have aphrodisiac properties to heighten your arousal.
THE BOUNCY CASTLE: If you and your lover like to have a giggle while you’re in the act, this is for you.
The fella should sit on an inflatable gym ball in the centre of the room, then his partner should sit on his lap, so he has a glorious view of her bottom during intimacy.
Next, bounce together on the ball, as gently or as energetically as you like.
At the end of the day, you should find all your organisation has been worth it — now lie back and plan your next day of nookie.