Mum who is ‘petrified’ of her aggressive TODDLERS won’t discipline them in case they get ‘upset’

A MUM who admits she is “petrified” of her aggressive toddlers says she struggles to discipline them because she doesn’t like seeing them upset.

Becky Scott, from Northampton, is at “breaking point” with her sons Bobbie, three, and Freddie, two, whose behaviour is so out-of-control she can’t take them to playgroup.

The 23-year-old has now appealed to Channel 4 show The Three Day Nanny to see if expert Kathryn Mewes can sort out her tearaway tots.

Becky said: “They push each other, jump on each other, you name it and they do it.

“I am worried about them turning into bullies. We are at breaking point. I feel like a bad mum as I can’t control my own kids.”

Becky works full-time so her husband Chris is left to look after the wild youngsters.

He says “biting, spitting, punching and hitting” is a regular occurrence and because of this he can’t take them to play with other children.

Becky admits she doesn’t know how to tell them off or calm them down.

“I don’t know how to say no to them as I don’t like to upset them. I want to be their mum but I also want to be their friend,” she said.

“I can’t stand to see them upset it makes me really anxious. At the moment Chris is authority and I am just there.”

Chris has tried a number of techniques – including making them stand on the naughty step – but to no avail.

He said: “I try to assert my authority as a parent but it results in fighting, pushing, biting. It is like a dark tunnel with no light at the end of it.”

Kathryn, a 42-year-old Norland trained nanny, believes she can restore harmony to the Scott home in just three days.

She said: “The boys didn’t respect either of you. There is no effective discipline in this house.

“The naughty corner isn’t working. They are confused about the punishment which makes them frustrated and then they lash out, you have created that violence.”

She continued: “I am concerned at where you will end up. Are they going to be the oiks in the park shouting abuse at people?

“They have to respect you or they won’t respect anyone in society. There is a lot to be done and it can only be done by you changing.”

Kathryn teaches Becky how to speak clearly but strictly to her kids, and tells Chris to stop using the naughty step and to send them to their bedrooms when they’ve been bad.

“Every time they hit you need to tell them to go to their rooms and sit on their own,” she said.

Kathryn also gets the pair to set up a reward system for the boys when they have been good, and gives them more freedom to play.

“They might take a tumble, they might eat some dirt but that is what kids do,” she said.

“A big lesson to take is when kids are given space to play, they are often more content then when their parents are standing over them.”

Thanks to Kathryn’s help the family are a lot happier and the boys can now play with other children.

Becky said: “We feel like a family. The boys are happy and listening to us. I can stand up and say no to them without thinking they are going to hate me for the rest of their lives.”

The new series of The Three Day Nanny starts on Channel 4 Wednesday at 8pm