11 things no one ever tells you about your first sex after having a baby

THE EXPERIENCE of giving birth is enough to put women off sex for life – or so they might think at the time.

But the human body bounces back pretty quickly and there will come a point when you will want to get back in the saddle again.

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Most wait until after the six week check while others feel ready sooner – and some even turn up to the examination pregnant.

But the first time you decide to have sex after a baby is a big moment.

And while it can be a beautiful thing it will NOT be exactly as it was before your became a mum.

Here are the 11 things you have never been told about postpartum sex, compiled by

There will be squirting 

If you're breastfeeding, your breasts cannot help but respond to touch and that means a bit of intimacy is sure to turn you into a sprinkler system. There’s no off switch.
The baby will cry

Even when newborn, babies seem to have a special sensor that tells them when they are not the centre of their parents’ attention and that means they will wail during sex.

The good news is that it is OK to ignore them, as long as they are safe.

You may cry from pain

Your body has been through  an amazing amount and everyone heals at different times. That could mean residual injuries such as scar tissue or back pain can make the first time after a baby pretty painful. If it doesn’t improve with time you should see the doctor.

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You might cry from emotion

New mums are awash with hormones and that can make tender moments a trigger for tears.

Sex talk might get weird

With thoughts that are permanently filled with the nappies, feeds and the tiny life you have created, it’s hard to keep your mind on the ….erm… job. So when you are in the throes of passion the odd preoccupation might slip out and if you end up shouting ‘baby wipes’ at the top of your voice you can be forgive.

You will feel guilty

It’s typical for new mums to feel guilty about EVERYTHING. You might feel that if your attention is on your man then you are neglecting the baby, and vice versa. This is perfectly natural and neither your baby or your partner is feeling the same.

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You will be grateful not to be mum for moment

Getting to feel sexy and playful with your partner is a huge relief after weeks of being ‘mum’. It also helps to know he still finds you desirable, which is a hige boost when many women feel at their most physically unattractive.

It will be messy

Residual blood, breast milk, along with other bodily fluids, will take more than a few baby wipes to solve. You may need to wash the bedding or use a towel.

Your baby may or may not be present 

If you can’t be in a different room, newborns can be around when you get together. They are oblivious. But if it puts you off, then it’s best to place them safely in another room.

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Full sex might not be on

If your body is still in pain, then vaginal sex may not be possible. Explore other options to satisfy each other.

You will crave post-coital snacks

Breastfeeding uses up extra calories and exhaustion from caring for the baby round the clock means you need more energy. Don’t feel bad about that snack.