Girlfriend snoops on her man’s phone and finds out he’s signed up to Plenty of Fish dating site… but some people think SHE’S in the wrong
Some said the woman had no right to check his phone... while other people on Reddit can't decide if she should confront him or not
A HEARTBROKEN woman who realised her boyfriend was active on a dating site designed for singletons took to the internet for advice… but some thought SHE was in the wrong.
Apparently, the couple had been dating for five-and-a-half years, and lived together for four.
The girlfriend’s suspicions were pricked when her partner started being more and more secretive over his phone.
Taking to Reddit, she explained: “He's asleep right now and I decided to snoop. Turns out my suspicions were right.
“He’s on Plenty of Fish (PoF), a dating website. He recently paid for a three month subscription.
“Maybe I'm a little petty, put I changed the About Me section, to say how much of an a**hole he is.
“I know it's kind of a d*** move, but I am beyond p***ed right now. He gets up for work in a few hours and I plan on packing my things as soon as he leaves.
“Any advice would be appreciated.”
Most Redditers were brutally honest, and suggested the let-down lady leave her fella immediately.
Among them was Lone Wolfing, who said: “Better you found out now rather than somewhere down the track. Good riddance to him. I hope you find a nice guy!”
Divider of 0 added: “Get tested for an STD. Not a great idea to entertain, but it could be a possibility.”
And I’m so fancy 33 said: “I think it's awesome you hacked his profile. May be petty... still awesome.”
Multitronic added: “Wow looks like he's gearing up to test the waters and see what else is out there.
“Sorry to hear, but you sound like you're making the right move. Good luck.”
And Milky Oolong said: “Just leave. He doesn't deserve to be told in person.
“Ghost him if that helps you. Or break up with him over text once you're somewhere safe. Heck, send him the breakup over PoF.”
Some of the ladies of Reddit had been in similar situations.
The Wizard Kara advised: “Even if he hasn't played away from home, he's not doing anything good on the site.
“He may love you but be playing innocent games, you'll hear the excuse ‘they didn't mean anything to me’, which only hurt more when I heard it because it meant my SO hurt me for someone that didn't matter.”
And I am NOT a cantaloupe added: “He obviously doesn't respect you enough to not want attention from other women.
“He’s decided to emotionally cheat and/or possibly physically cheat on you.
“I was in a relationship where I had the same suspicious about my boyfriend. He was secretive about his phone, constantly on it, etc.
“I went on his phone when he was sleeping and saw that he had been texting/sexting his ex while we were on vacation.
“I decided to see what else was on his computer and he was also on a dating website and even posted a Craigslist ad for casual connections.”
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Kinks McGee wrote: “Something similar happened to me with my ex fiancé of 8 years when I found he has Tinder on his phone.
“Long story short, he'd had a string of online affairs over the last three years of our relationship.
“The best advice I can offer is leave as soon as you get the chance and once your affairs are in order cut contact.”
However, two Redditers were less sympathetic.
Cross MR said: “In some places isn't accessing another person's accounts without permission like that considered ‘hacking’?
“She could just be opening herself up to legal liability and she just left a trail on Reddit.”
TH_Cat added: “Did you confront your boyfriend before you snooped? Yes, it's very wrong that he is hiding things but it's also wrong to snoop.
“There don't seem to be any communication skills here.
“I believe you would be doing the right thing by leaving so you can both work on your own issues away from a relationship.”
