‘I’m too tired and can’t be bothered to get naked’: Women reveal the frank reasons they’ve totally gone off sex
Five women explain why they hardly lay a finger on their partners but insist they still love them
FOR decades women have used the excuse “not tonight darling, I’ve got a headache” to fend off amorous partners.
But behind all the secrecy, a group of women have opened about the real struggles in their long-term relationships with .
The tales include a mix of hormones to a loss of libido not to mention things like kids that can also interfere.
One woman admitted she woke up one day and decided she didn't want to have sex anymore with her boyfriend.
Ruth, 35, said: "It sounds weird saying it because I didn’t wake up and also not love him anymore. I still loved him and thought he was sexy. I just lost my sexual appetite."
She said her partner "took it very personally" and thought she was "over him and who he was".
Ruth added: "The doctor said I was probably feeling like this because of some stress I was experiencing in my job and with my family. She said there was nothing wrong with me, and that made me feel better. It definitely made him feel better, too.”
Another women who could relate was Heather, 32, who admitted she thought there was something was up with their relationship after she lost her interest in having sex.
She said: "I ended up finding out I was feeling this way because of my birth control, and once the doctor took me off, I felt better and we started having a decent sex life again, doing it about two to three times a week.
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While a 29-year-old mum-of-two revealed she would rather go to bed than get kinky with her hubby.
Juliet admitted: “Nobody tells you this when you’re a teen or in your twenties, but sex is way different after you have kids.
"Mainly because I’m always tired and the last thing I want to do is get naked, show my husband my post-pregnancy body, and have sex.
"Don’t get me wrong, I love him, and I love our life together. I just feel blah about my body, and I’d also rather sleep when the kids sleep than stay up and have sex."
She added: "My husband is annoyed about this. He’s not home all day, so his level of tired is consistent and based on his job. Mine is based on rowdy young kids. This is an ongoing fight in our household, and it kind of sucks."
Linda who has been married for more than 23 years said she's just "over it".
The 48-year-old said: "I’m a little bored. My husband doesn’t understand. He says he will try new things.
"He told me last month we’ll take a sex class, or he will order a book on Amazon, and we’ll get back into the swing of things.
"But I told him I’m good. I love him. I want to spend the rest of my life with him. But right now, I don’t want to have sex with him. He has to deal with that. He doesn’t have much of a choice.”
In an unusual turn of events, Sarah, 24, revealed that her loss of interest in having sex with her boyfriend of two years came down to her attraction to other females.
She said: "I’ve been with females before, and I thought I was over it. I guess I’m not."