Don’t let your weight dim your confidence in bed! These are the 5 best sex positions for curvy girls
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Excuse me using this annoying adage, but I would be stinking rich for every time a woman’s told me she worries about her lumps and bumps in the bedroom.
Crikey, we women have a knack of focusing negatively on the things so many men love – our curves.
How about we forget about the men and learn to love our bodies ourselves?
The stats are scary. One survey found nearly 75% of women used different ways to disguise what they considered excess weight when a bit of whey-hey-hey was on the cards.
From weird and wonderful draping of the sheets around them - to the lights off - they determinedly hid their bodies from partners.
Wake up! You know what the guys are thinking? I’ve been cheated! I want to see her!
It doesn’t have to be this way
Before we get to five red-hot positions for you, check these:
- From today start focusing on yourself as a whole person and not just a body (and this applies to men with body image worries too).
- Accept that confidence comes from within and you can radiate it no matter your shape or size.
- Talk yourself up, telling yourself you’ve got loads to offer plus you’re a sexy vixen.
- Choose styles you feel confident and sexy in. Practice strutting around the bedroom in them. Fake-it-to-make-it and eventually it starts morphing into real confidence.
- Daily remind yourself of your top personality points from your GSOH to your life-loving side.
Here are five fun and frisky positions worth giving a whirl -
Lovers’ Embrace – Lie on your sides, facing each other, embracing.
- She places her upper thigh onto his hips. Then snuggle up closer together allowing him to slide into her.
- To vary sensations, she can move her upper leg further up his hips or close it more tightly onto his hips.
- Then as he moves the sensations vary. Plus this added pressure on his penis is good for a man who’s on the small side.
The Spoons – Both of you lie on your sides with him behind.
- The curve of her back and bottom snuggle into the curve of his stomach and chest. She lifts her upper leg to allow him to penetrate.
- Pushing her bottom back and upwards a bit, will help him easily enter. Thrusting can be gentle or vigorous depending on their mood.
The Cradle – He lies flat with her on top, lying chest against chest.
- She draws her legs up underneath her, so her knees are bent.
- It's named the ‘cradle’ because it's as if she's cradling his body with her body. He and she move slowly sensually.
The Resting Dog – A variation on classic ‘doggy’ where he’s behind and she’s on her hands and knees.
- Subtle lighting should help her get over any inhibitions about him seeing her bum.
- To make it the ‘resting dog’ she moves pillows underneath her stomach and relaxes downwards, letting her hands and arms slip forward on the mattress.
Split the Whisker – He crouches on his knees as she lies on her back.
- She rests one leg on his shoulder so it requires a little flexibility from her.
- This position gives him good control. He holds her thighs or hips in order to keep stability and not slip out of her as he begins gentle thrusting.
Sextra tip: Crank up the heat in these positions by slipping a vibrator between you two or, e.g. between her legs during ‘spoons’.
So enjoy and think of your lumps and bumps as your lovely lady humps from that classic Black Eyed Peas tune.
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