Swinger party couple say sex with strangers makes their love stronger
MEET the couple who say swinging keeps their marriage alive – and the pair even go on TINDER together.
Holli and Michael Bell are big fans of ‘sharing the love’- and even swap partners with other couples.
The married parents from Los Angeles, USA, love to go to swingers parties together and find sexual partners on the online dating app, Tinder.
Holli, 32, who has a 14-year-old son from a previous marriage, finds the swinging lifestyle incredibly empowering.
Holli, who has been with Michael for over seven years, explains: “Swinging has enhanced my life because it has allowed me to be myself and explore my own sexuality.
“Michael and I communicate everything without judgement and that’s so liberating.
“Michael can tell me if he finds another woman attractive and vice versa.
"Every couple thinks about these things but it’s such a rare gift to be able to share that with your partner. It’s very freeing.”
Michael, 38, who has a 12-year-old daughter from a past relationship, adds: “Swinging has strengthened our bond – I do this with Holli because I love her.
“Holli and I are emotionally monogamous with each other.
“We aren’t looking to fall in love with anyone else but we’re attracted to other people.
“We play with different couples or other single women.
“We have a great time on Tinder together too – learning more about each other and who we’re attracted to.
“We’ve found so many new sexual partners on that app too!
“I love watching Holli’s face when we’re sharing experiences together.
“Seeing how happy it makes her is the most exciting part for me.”
Michael and Holli now work full-time for Playboy Radio giving expert advice on dating and open relationships.
This career move came about after Michael was cruelly forced to resign from his old job at a medical research company after they learnt about his and Holli’s open relationship.
Michael says: “I was forced to resign from my job after one of the physicians heard about my and Holli’s open marriage.
“What Holli and I did together was frowned upon.
“It’s a sad fact that many people understand infidelity but not open non-monogamy.
“Swinging is about honesty, not lying to your partner.
“We want to debunk some of the myths around our lifestyle.”
Holli had a very conservative upbringing and was married to her ex-husband for ten years.
The mum-of-one had been divorced for a year when she met recently-separated Michael in September 2009 and the pair of them clicked instantly.
Holli then became even more intrigued when Michael confided in her about swinging parties he had been to in the past.
Holli explains: “Michael wanted to be open with me from the get-go so he told me all about his past and his involvement in swinging.
“He never told me I had to go with him but I was so intrigued by the lifestyle.
“Michael would tell me what would go on at these lifestyle parties and I loved the sound of them.
“I had always known I was bi-curious but when I told my ex-husband, he freaked out at the idea and I repressed those feelings.
“But Michael accepted me for who I was and at these swingers parties, it felt like were free to be yourself too.
“If you wanted to have sex, you could have sex.
“If you wanted to observe, you could watch or even be watched
“I asked Michael to take me to a party with him but he wanted to make sure I felt totally comfortable before we explored anything together.”
After discussing the topic for three months, Holli felt ready to go to a party with Michael.
Michael, who had been attending swinging parties since he was just 18, says: “It was months of talking and making sure we were on the same page before we went to our first party together.
“We discussed all our rules and boundaries as a couple beforehand.
After that first time together, the couple started swinging more regularly and three years later, they were husband and wife.
Holli adds: “At our first party together, all I did was kiss another girl in front of Michael because that was what we had discussed beforehand.
“After that first kiss, I felt excited but I wasn’t ready to jump right in with the lifestyle.
“Michael and I took it slowly, initially experimenting with other women before gradually swapping partners with other couples.
“Our communication was so good and Michael and I talked about everything that we got to an amazing point where we were able to truly experiment with each other.
“Swinging has strengthened our marriage. I feel free to be me.”