Labour councillor’s VERY demanding Plenty of Fish profile that tells woman they must be slim, have no tattoos and be CATHOLIC
Dan Fleming said he might have to start re-thinking his criteria if his exhaustive list of demands cannot be met
A YOUNG councillor has shared an exhaustive list of demands for his future wife, insisting she must be slim, tattoo-less, Catholic and not have any kids - unless her former partner is dead.
Lovelorn building surveyor and Labour councillor Dan Fleming has turned to Plenty of Fish (POF) to share his in-depth dating requirements, saying he wants a woman to be able to hold a conversation about things "other than reality TV, soaps, clothes, make-up or other female apparel".
In his bid to bag the women of his dreams, the 29-year-old has shared the list that he believes will provide him with a perfect partner, saying that among other things, there is "no excuse" for a woman his age to be overweight.
Dan, who is from Burnley, Lancashire, said: "It probably is a bit extreme but it's all light-hearted.
"I've been speaking to a few women about my profile and some have been a bit offended, one asked if I was deliberately trolling women, which of course I'm not."
He said he had bantered with several of the women who had replied to his post but had so far been unsuccessful in his bid for love.
Dan, who is also a Labour councillor for Burnley Wood with Rosehill, said: "Online dating is hard but it's all meant as being light hearted – it's hard to interpret what someone is saying online than if you are having a conversation."
The young bachelor said that he wrote the 442-word profile "to be a bit different".
Dan said: "It was a social observation more than anything. I'm not saying all women do that but I actually got the idea from reading a lot of women's profiles.
"It's only a bit of fun."
He said that he had been strung on one POF date, with the woman not matching her online profile photos.
He said: "She didn't look anything like she did in her photos.
"I'd arrived half an hour early and went to the toilet to freshen up and there was this great big woman.
"I thought she was a member of staff and then she said, 'Are you going to the toilet first? I'll go sit down and wait for you'.
"When I realised who she was I was really embarrassed and I think she was as well.
"There are a lot of big people out there nowadays – both men and women. I'm slim and athletic."
He said he would be "happy enough" if he could marry a "slim, beautiful woman and she puts some weight on after having kids";.
He added: "I just think your body is a reflection of yourself and your lifestyle.";
Dan also said he was old-fashioned when it came to tattoos.
He said: "I know employers nowadays are starting to come round to hiring people with visible tattoos.
"For me it's not a visual thing but more of a brain thing.
"If they've got a visible tattoo they're being short-sighted and not looking far enough into the future – they're not envisioning themselves in 50 years' time."
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The tennis, boxing and footie fan also has strong opinions on family life and said he was determined not to be a "gap filler" for a single mother in case the child's father came back on the scene.
He said: "There are a lot of single mums on POF – I'm getting older so it's to be expected.
"I'd be worried if I were to fall in love and have a baby and family – how could you trust someone who's done that with someone else?
"Every situation is different I guess but I wouldn't entertain anyone who has been divorced.
"At the end of the day you've made a promise to live with someone for the rest of their life.
"How could you trust someone (who had)? I personally couldn't."
WOULD YOU DATE HIM? DAN FLEMING'S DEMANDING PROFILE
I don't use POF very often, I very rarely send the first message and I'm content being single.
I read many profiles, with women describing in detail their previous bad judgement when it comes to selecting a partner. Detailing how they quite simply want a man whom [sic] is honest, that they can get along with and will remain faithful. I don't think that's much to ask. I urge you all to choose more wisely next time, if you don't pick well, ask your family to judge them for you, a brother, dad for example.
You probably have bad taste in men, because deep down, you enjoy complaining to your friends how badly your partner treats you, it probably gives you a sense of enormous well-being. I could take on a woman like that, but you'd probably get bored of me. So instead, I'll keep clear and enjoy the spectacle of entertaining female psyche!
I won't take a partner for the sake of not being single, I'm looking for a keeper, I'm in no rush, if I don't relply [sic] to you, I probably don't envisage you being the mother of my future children, sorry! The following qualities are what I'm looking for:
- slim (no excuse ladies, at our age, we should be in our prime). I may budge if you're really pretty and willing to let me whip you into shape by sharing my athletic lifestyle. Size 12+ is not for me, you may be average in the UK, but just because lots of women are overweight, doesn't make it right. Too much greed & indulgence in this country
- without child, unless your partner has died, or at least well and truly out of the picture (I know many a good man that's been a gap filler, only for daddy to back on the scene)
- be Roman Catholic (I may budge on that, but our kids would be going to the Catholic school, end of discussion!) or at least hold similar values, such as kindness and family values
- have some kind of interest in sports
- have more interests than just shopping and watching TV
- be able to hold a conversation about topics other than reality TV, soaps, clothes, make-up or other female apparel
- not have any tattoos, or if you do, they must not be visible (on your face, arms or legs). In fact, all tattood [sic] women can do one, disgusting!
I guess I'm going to be single for a long time ha! If you have read my profile all the way through, you probably need to find a hobby, anyone for tennis?
But despite saying he was happy being single, Dan said he might need to start assessing his criteria if he continued to be unlucky in love.
He said: "Thinking I'll find someone who matches everything I'm looking for isn't realistic – I think I would be very lucky if I did, especially as at my age all the best ones are taken.
"I'm nearly 30 so I'm down to slim pickings unfortunately.
"We all want the ones more desirable than ourselves, then don't show enough interest in the ones more on our own level.
"I definitely suffer with that and being too stubborn to message first, I often get the less desirable ones chatting to me.
"But it's not always the case - I've shared messages with some really nice and pretty young ladies too.
"Thankfully I'm content with my own company, I've given up hope of ever finding the right person.
"I'll probably just plod along as I am for as long as possible, then when I'm old and lonely, less attractive and less shallow, I'll just grab anyone that I can get along with, even if it's just for companionship."
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