Kinky bisexual Church of England vicar is sacked over orgies and hookers after wife exposes randy antics
A SEX-ADDICT vicar has been defrocked after his wife exposed his depraved double life of hookers and orgies.
A Church of England tribunal in London heard details of Rev James Meredith Day’s antics after estranged Birte made a formal complaint.
It found the bisexual clergyman spanked her, took part in group sex, visited gay saunas and sought out romps with prostitutes.
After laying bare his kinky double life she revealed: “He said the two most important elements in his life were God and sex.”
Birte Day amassed a cache of evidence to nail the shamless clergyman at a Church of England tribunal — including porn images from his computer and references to gay liaisons.
Following her explosive statement, the disciplinary hearing ruled her husband would be banned from ministry for life over his conduct.
The hearing, set up after Birte lodged a formal complaint, found the Cambridge-educated dad of three assaulted her with a scarf, spanked her in front of workmen, took part in group sex, visited homosexual saunas, used an alias to meet gay men and sought out sex with prostitutes.
It further found bisexual Day, also a psychology professor, stored “a substantial amount” of “depraved and perverted” pornography and indecent material on his computers.
The material involved possible rape scenarios and bondage with young-looking men and women and “sketches” of naked women being tortured and burned, it was said.
The London tribunal ruled his actions amounted to “conduct unbecoming and inappropriate.”
Birte told in her evidence how Day — originally from America — moved with his family to Cambridge in 2001 as he did his theological training at Westcott House.
He was ordained a deacon in 2003 before they moved to Brussels.
It was there that Birte — who split from her husband in 2012 and later began divorce proceedings — noticed his behaviour change.
She said he started “neglecting” her and spending more time online.
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THE vicar admitted he was a sex addict in an email to his wife while he was away at a conference in Vienna.
Birte Day recalled: “James said that he had a ‘sexual addiction’ and a dependency on sex. He referred to being bisexual and to engaging in sexual activity in gay saunas.”
She told how he had cards for gay sauna clubs worldwide, including Brussels, Italy and New York.
Birte once asked why he went and he replied: “Am I not allowed to go to the sauna and do something for myself and be a free man?”
She also saw an email in which he advised a pal: “You must never desist on account of my priesthood. Perhaps I should send you photos from a gang bang I participated in to assuage your guilt.”
The CofE tribunal heard how Day became “powerful and menacing” in a string of attacks on his wife.
Birte said he once pulled a scarf so tightly around her neck she struggled to breathe.
She added: “While he was holding the ends of the scarf he pulled me close and spat in my face.”
A month later he is said to have grabbed her scarf again through a window.
Birte claimed: “He pulled me closer”, adding: “It temporarily stopped me from breathing.”
She also accused him of biting her hand in the bedroom, which caused her to fall to the floor in agony.
She added: “The children came into the room and were very concerned.”
The clergyman is even said to have spanked her for wearing shorts while workmen were present.
Birte recalled: “He said I had not to wear indecent clothes, in particular not in front of these men who would be looking at me.”
As their relationship faltered, Birte began gathering evidence of her husband’s secret porn habit because “to others outside the marriage he projected himself to be a successful and respectable person.”
She said she collected about 50 short videos and “at least 100 sketches of naked women being tortured and burned”.
She said one image was saved on his computer’s private file as “gang bang”.
She told the tribunal the picture showed a woman and two men, one of whom was the vicar.
Birte also found business cards and a receipt suggesting her husband was visiting gay saunas in Brussels, Italy and New York.
She said he had sexual feelings for both genders, adding: “He often said the two most important elements of his life were God and sex.”
The hearing also heard Day created the alter ego “Henry Olsen” to meet other men and call-girls.
Birte said: “He created email addresses for himself under different names so he could lead a double life for sexual purposes.”
In one email Henry Olsen tried to arrange a meeting with a woman known as Amanda in Brussels who charged €130 “for one hour”.
Birte said: “When I asked James about Henry Olsen, he admitted using the name as an identity.”
She added: “I think he wanted to hurt me with his sexual activities and was making me feel guilty as I was just not good enough.”
She said he left open porn websites for her to find — adding: “He was not embarrassed I knew about his sexual activities outside our marriage. He readily admitted them.”
Birte added: “James had huge files on the computer, including images of modern art. But they were mixed up with pornographic images.
“I began to copy some of the pornography off the computer and store it on memory sticks.
“I had to protect myself by gathering evidence to show that he was not normal, because outside the marriage he projected himself as a successful and respectable person.”
Birte said the couple were burgled in 2011 and that business cards were strewn on the floor.
She said they included some for a male gay sauna club in Brussels — and that Day was also a member of a gay bath-house in Italy.
Using his alter ego, he sent “sexually explicit” emails to a man he met at least twice for sex, she said.
Next he targeted a man called Frederic, sending pictures of himself and suggesting he would like to meet Frederic and his boyfriend.
The Rev, who worked at the English Church in Ostend from 2003 to 2005, also had a sexual liaison with a man called Kris in Paris.
Birte said: “I told him I knew about Kris. James said it was not my business. He said he was a free man and I was no Christian.”
The Bishop’s Disciplinary Tribunal for the Diocese of Europe concluded Day’s behaviour was not criminal — but that standards for the clergy “must be different”.
It said: “We are satisfied that the possession of the material on his computers and the seeking of or taking part in sexual relations with others while married was conduct unbecoming and inappropriate.”
The hearing said it was “satisfied” that assaults on Birte took place, adding the allegation against the priest was “proved in its entirety”.
Day did not attend the tribunal but didn’t contest the proceedings.
In an email he claimed he had collected “dozens of letters” that would “cast serious doubt on the credibility of his wife”.
And he said “criminal charges” had been filed against complainants in Belgium.
Last night The Sun approached him as he left work at the Université Catholique de Louvain, near Brussels.
He said: “I don’t appreciate the way you’re doing this.”