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Coleen - of The Nolan Sisters fame - also warned that the couple could face a trial separation if counselling doesn't work.
Guitarist Ray, 58, has been touring with Rick Astley taking him away from the family home, while Coleen's Loose Women commitments mean the couple barely see each other.
The former popstar also revealed that they would spend nights together, often on the same sofa, just not talking to each other - sometimes for days at a time.
Loose Women star Coleen spoke out in December so others in the same position don't feel as lonely Credit: Splash News Coleen frequently talks about her relationship on the ITV show Credit: ITV The I'm in the Mood for Dancing singer described the moment Ray told her he no longer found her attractive saying she was 'totally devastated'.
"It was tough to hear, but I'd asked him for the truth and sometimes the truth bloody hurts!" she added.
Coleen, 51, insisted she wouldn't be dieting to make Ray happy and said she found him the 'least fanciable man on the planet' when he had been drinking.
Ray and Coleen have been married since 2007 Credit: News Group Newspapers Ltd The pair, who have been married since 2007 and share a daughter Ciara, 15, have been speaking about trying to save their marriage, no matter how hard it is.
Author and agony aunt Coleen added: I asked if he was still in love with me and instantly he said yes and then I asked if he still wanted to be married or call it quits.
The star is now determined to fight for her marriage Credit: ITV "He said he couldn't think of anything worse than ending it - it was a huge relief. Up until that point I wasn't sure Ray still loved me - he's not the kind of man that says it - so it was a massive breakthrough."Coleen insisted the pair would fight for the marriage and not give it up without a fight in honour of their child and their history.
She added: "When you still love each other, which we do, you have to fight to stay together and the majority of our marriage has been fantastic."
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