Chanelle Hayes’ love life: ‘Humiliated by men’, dumped after giving birth and furious Twitter rows

Chanelle Hayes has certainly had roller-coaster relationships. Nothing’s ever plain sailing for her and it's tragic it's happened again when her son, Frankie, is only a couple months old.

Unfortunately this roller-coaster pattern suggests that Chanelle might be so used to dramas that she hasn't learnt how to keep things calm in her romantic life.

Once you let everything become a drama, it's hard to learn positive ways of relating to a partner. Where you two actually sort out your differences.

Self-fulfilling cycle –

This can become a self-fulfilling cycle of choosing men who fit into the relationship ‘pattern’ that you know. Ones who also don't know how to reach compromises and work out differences. Something every couple must learn to do for a successful love life.

I've never met Chanelle but going by her interviews over the years, since her Big Brother experience, she really wants stability. She wants to be loved and to have security. But she doesn't seem to have the relationship ‘skills’ needed to achieve this.

I’d urge Chanelle –

I'd urge Chanelle to get all the support she can from family and friends with baby Frankie, who's so young and needs 24/7 care. To focus on his wellbeing as well as her own. A happy mum means a happy baby. This means resisting getting into more arguments with Ryan.

Together they should work out his visitations – maybe through a trusted third party – while feelings are running high.

And perhaps have a trusted family member or friend help them with handovers when Ryan visits so they don't have further rows in front of their baby.

This really is the time to put Frankie first and their differences on the back burner, giving time for things to calm down. Then maybe together they can move forward to a happier place.